Today you’ll learn everything you need to know to value yourself correctly.
Living in a very fast-paced life has left many people without time for themselves. We get too caught up with what is happening around us and what people around us are doing. We start comparing ourselves to other people.
Are we doing enough to earn the validation that we long for? Do we deserve to be happy? Is it selfish to prioritize ourselves sometimes? Do we deserve love? Not to be blunt, but these questions are as toxic as our thinking can get.
We will keep repeating throughout this article that you are worth everything you have achieved thus far. After all, you do deserve love and happiness too. Keep this in mind: the key to receiving love and appreciation from others starts from within.
It does not mean that the point of valuing yourself is for others to like you. In contrast, that notion is quite far from the truth. Many benefits arise from valuing oneself. Today, we will talk about ways to practice self-love every day to live a more wholesome life.
But before we get into those tips, let us look at how beneficial valuing yourself can be.
The benefits of valuing yourself
Valuing yourself means to know your worth and put your needs before anyone else’s, given that the situation calls for it. Appreciating oneself can exhibit itself in various ways, from self-care to increased self-esteem and confidence. Here are some plus points of valuing yourself:
- It improves your mental health
The thing about the human mind is that you can either take the wheel or let it step all over you. If you learn to value yourself, you will automatically lose all those negative thoughts and doubts that you had about yourself.
Our mental health always influences the other spheres of health, whether it is our physical, emotional, or even spiritual well-being. Now that you know how important our mental health is, you should do everything you can to keep it in its optimal condition.
Taking care of yourself will make you feel happy. This, in turn, will have a positive effect on your mindset. Even if you face an unfavorable situation, you will be able to take control and turn things around. A happy heart is good medicine that lifts our spirits, and a joyful mind brings healing.
- It has a positive impact on your relationships
We are all social beings. It does not matter if we are extroverts, introverts, or ambiverts. We are all a part of a relationship or bond with other people. Here, a relationship can be in the form of a friendship, a romantic relationship, a work-related connection, or a family relationship.
All relationships are a two-way street. You cannot expect only one party to do all the work. If you have a healthy mentality, you strive to be the best version of yourself. This will reflect itself even in the little things that you do. You start to give your best in the relationships that you have with other people.
The other party in the relationship will notice how much effort you are putting in and reciprocate naturally. In the end, you get a bond where both parties are giving the best, which is bound to improve it.
- It gives you an air of confidence
Valuing yourself and realizing that you are an important being makes you more confident in yourself and your skills. A confident person has the ability to come off as charming and attractive. It automatically increases your charisma and refines your presence.
If you are confident, you can help others better and solve the problems that they have with a clear mind. You will not shy away from challenges. Instead, you will look for challenges and work them out without any problem. Even if you find it difficult to solve it on your own, this will not make you feel any lesser. You know your worth, and nothing will change that.
Thinking whether you have the skills or prowess to accomplish something will no longer plant seeds of doubt in your mind. It does not mean that you are overconfident and overestimating yourself. It only means that you can now face your fears head-on. You will not feel discouraged, even if you fail at something.
- It makes your expectations more practical and realistic
People might think that if a person finds their self worth and values themselves, they feel very highly of themselves. In contrast to this thought, people who value themselves know that perfection and flawless conditions are impossible. They learn to embrace their flaws and accept that one’s goals and aims should be realistic.
No one is perfect, and thus, whatever we do can never be perfect in every way. The only way to not feel down or depressed is to accept the imperfections if something does not go according to our plan. Learning to set realistic goals from the get-go will make your whole self valuing journey worth the while.
- It gives you a sense of direction
If you value yourself, you learn to give importance to what actually matters. You will stop giving importance to what others think about you. Their opinions about you will no longer dictate your actions and behavior. This, in itself, gives you an idea regarding what you should not be doing. You should not be putting others’ thoughts above yours.
Likewise, you start to prioritize things like your health, your relationships with the people whom you care about, and even your goals. You will not be able to accomplish or do everything instantly. Rome was not built in one day. But you will slowly achieve whatever you set out to do.
If you can respect yourself and your own goals and achievements, people will also start respecting you. No one likes a person who cannot stand on their own two feet. You can start slowly and accelerate once you get the hang of it. Getting your needs met will give you more confidence and build your spirit.
- It keeps your inferiority complex in check
The whole point of valuing yourself is to get rid of your inferiority complex. This is when a person thinks they are not as good as someone at something. For example, suppose you baked a cake, but the appearance did not come out as the picture shown. Someone comes and tastes the cake and tells you that it is beautiful and delicious.
However, you think it is not good enough and disregards the person’s compliments completely. This behavior has a very damaging impact on a person’s self-esteem. If you learn to value yourself, such a situation will not happen in the first place. Even if the cake is not as pretty as the one in the picture, you know you did your best, and that is what matters in the end.
- It gives you a push in your professional life
According to many studies, a person who is confident and self-assured is more likely to do well in their jobs. Being confident is a product of valuing yourself and knowing your worth. Confident and charismatic people are fully aware of their skills, abilities, and potential. And since they give their all in everything they do, they will shoot for the stars.
This state of mind leaves a good impression on their bosses and employers. Even the other employees and colleagues will feel inspired and motivated to perform better.
How to practice self-love every day
Valuing yourself starts with self-care and self-love. Let us look at some things you can do to practice self-love every day. After all, practice makes perfect, and very soon, you will value and see yourself the way you should:
Life is a roller coaster, and we feel stressed from many things, including but not limited to work, relationships, school, college, family, and social pressures. Meditation is an excellent way to eliminate unnecessary stress that might pull you down from reaching your full potential. This activity improves your mental health.
Meditating every day will significantly change your life by reducing negative energies, making you more patient and understanding, and increasing your creativity. The best thing about meditation is that it can be as short as just one minute a day. You can meditate as long or as short as you want.
A healthy body reinforces a healthy mind. You do not have to exercise every day, but regular exercise will make you feel happy and accomplished. Even if you are feeling low and your mind seems out of place, exercising might help you get back on track.
Our appearance does not decide our value and worth. However, a fit and healthy physique will surely make you feel better about yourself. The main reward of exercising when it comes to self-love is to give you a sense of achievement. A feeling that you were able to do and complete what you set out for the day.
- Have some fun!
As the saying goes, all work and no play makes Tom a dull boy. This means that if you make no time to have fun or do things that you like, your life will take a downward plunge. You should not neglect your work, but do not forget to have fun once in a while.
What a person finds fun might not be fun for you. So instead of telling you what to do, you can choose something for yourself. Doing something that brings you joy can help you realize what matters more: your happiness or someone else’s.
- Stop comparing yourself to others
Once you start comparing yourself based on someone else’s terms, you will only feel worse about yourself. Even if you have significant achievements in your pockets, the person you are comparing yourself to will always do better in your mind.
Focus on yourself and the many wonderful things you have done. It does not matter if they are big or small. Learn to appreciate yourself and give yourself some credit. Appreciate and love yourself.
Identify something you always wanted to learn or something that interests you. Now, start learning how to do it. Or read a book about it. Developing yourself will take time. The one thing you can do to push the process further is to work on it every day. This tip increases your self-worth, which in turn makes you value yourself more.
Developing oneself can be in the form of learning a new skill or a new hobby and it also makes you value yourself indirectly. You can see these developments in physical form. But sometimes development can be internal like learning to keep your cool during an argument or not getting overwhelmed by emotion.
- Surround yourself with positivity
Whether it is the people or the things you surround yourself with, make sure that everything gives off a positive vibe. If a relationship feels unpleasant or disagreeable, do not feel ashamed to address it or get out of it. Learn to say no to what you do not like to do, even if others might dislike you for it.
You might feel uneasy the first few times you say no, but it will all be worth it in the long run. You should continue to help others, but not at the expense of your well being and self-worth.
Valuing yourself does not mean you are self-centered and self-absorbed. Prioritizing your needs and taking care of yourself does not mean that you do not care about other people. There are times when we have to focus on ourselves to be of better help to others. If you do not learn to love and value yourself, no one else will do it for you.
We are all unique and have different methods of dealing with and processing things. Comparing how far you have come with someone else’s journey is not only purposeless but also damaging. You will notice a massive change and shift in your outlook if you practice self-care. Always believe in yourself and know that you matter. Start valuing yourself today and see how much more beautiful the world looks!